New psychology research shows how your mindset can alter the way you perceive prospective romantic partners

first_imgShare on Facebook Share on Twitter Pinterest Email To test the effects of a sexy mindset, we conducted three studies in which we first exposed participants either to sexual (but not pornographic) stimuli or to neutral stimuli. Next, the participants encountered a potential partner and rated this partner’s attractiveness and romantic interest in them. Participants’ interest in the partner was self-reported or evaluated by raters.In the first study, participants were randomly paired with an unacquainted participant of the other sex. Then, participants introduced themselves to each other by talking about their hobbies, positive traits, and future career plans while being videotaped. The videotaped introductions were coded for non-verbal expressions of immediacy behavior that convey interest in initiating romantic relationships (e.g., close physical proximity, frequent eye contact, flashing smiles). We found that exposure to a sexual stimulus (versus a neutral stimulus) led participants to exhibit more immediacy behavior toward a potential partner and to perceive this partner as more attractive and interested in them.In our second study, we wished to control for the potential partner’s attractiveness and reactions. Accordingly, all participants watched the same prerecorded video introduction of a potential partner of the other sex and introduced themselves to this partner while being videotaped. These videotapes were coded for expressions of attempts to induce a favorable impression (e.g., flashing smiles and presenting oneself as a valued partner), which are typically exhibited in a dating context and are aimed at attracting desired partners. As in Study 1, we found that activation of the sexual system led participants to perceive potential partners as more attractive as well as more interested in a romantic relationship.In the third study, we investigated whether participants’ romantic interest in the other participant might explain why sexual activation affects perceptions of others’ romantic interest in oneself. To do so, participants interacted online with another participant, who in reality was an attractive opposite-sex member of the research team, in a “get to know each other” conversation. Then, participants rated their romantic interest in the other participant as well as the other participant’s attractiveness and interest in them.We revealed that sexual activation increased participants’ romantic interest in the other participant, which, in turn, predicted perceiving the other participant as more interested in oneself. Having active sexual thoughts apparently arouses romantic interest in a prospective partner and thereby encourages the adoption of an optimistic outlook on one’s courting prospects with this partner.Overall, our research demonstrates that people are more likely to desire potential partners and to project their desires onto them when sexually aroused, such that a sexually tinged mindset renders these partners appealing and seemingly romantically interested in them.These findings suggest that the sexual system prepares the ground for relationship formation by biasing interpersonal perceptions in a way that motivates human beings to connect; it does so by inspiring interest in potential partners, which, in turn, biases the perceptions of partners’ interest in oneself. This cascade of reactions may help allay rejection fears and thereby reduce the costly likelihood of missing desirable mating opportunities.The study, “Seeing what you want to see: Sexual activation makes potential partners seem more appealing and romantically interested“, was authored by Gurit E. Birnbaum, Mor Iluz, Einat Plotkin, Lihi Tibi, Ronit Hematian, Moran Mizrahi, and Harry T. Reis.(Image by Sasin Tipchai from Pixabay)center_img LinkedIn A successful pursuit of mating partners depends on targeting potential partners who are not only perceived as desirable, but also as partners who will reciprocate one’s advances. To be sure, people often refrain from courting desired prospective partners because of the fear of being rejected by them. An optimistic outlook on one’s courting prospects may therefore play a key role in the decision to approach a potential partner. Such optimism often reflects the perceptions that a partner is more interested in oneself than is actually the case. This biased perception may instill the confidence people need to set aside rejection worries and to pursue the desired partner.In our recent research, we proposed that activating the sexual system by exposing people to sexual cues that create a sexy mindset might motivate them to take a leap of faith needed to pursue a romantic relationship. The motivation to have sex may apparently produce a type of tunnel vision that produces a sense of urgency for relationship/sexual initiation while marginalizing other concerns, such as protecting oneself from being hurt.Past research has indeed demonstrated that following activating the sexual system, people tend to behave in ways that help them become close to a stranger, such as disclosing personal information or being responsive to this stranger’s needs. In the present research, we extended these findings by focusing on the step that precedes relationship initiation, investigating the hypothesis that sexual activation would increase one’s interest in a potential partner and the perceptions of this partner’s attractiveness and interest in oneself. Sharelast_img read more

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Corridor X in 35 h

first_imgEUROPE: Headed by two gleaming black locomotives, the Bosphorus Europe Express pulled into the Halkal? Container Terminal in Istanbul’s western suburbs on the evening of March 17, just 35 h after setting out from Ljubljana at 08.30 on the morning of March 16.The record-breaking container train was organised by the Balkan Business Advisory Council in association with five state-railways, SŽ in Slovenia, HZ in Croatia, ZS in Serbia, BDZ in Bulgaria and TCDD in Turkey. The project was intended to demonstrate the potential for rail operations on Trans-European Corridor X, with a target journey time for the 1 577 km of 37 h, compared to the current typical timing of around 60 h. Technical support for the project was provided by DB, with strong personal backing from its Chairman Hartmut Mehdorn. The train was double-headed by two locomotives provided by München-based leasing company MRCE Dispolok GmbH, in the form of a Siemens Eurosprinter ES64 F4 four-system electric loco to run on the 3 kV DC and 25 kV 50 Hz systems and a Eurorunner ER20 diesel for the non-electrified sections in Serbia and Bulgaria.Our correspondent reports that bureaucratic problems in Croatia, along with objections from the the train drivers workers union, meant that the train had to be hauled by HZ 1141 electric, with ES64F4 and ER20 dead in tow. But even this was not allowed to delay the rapid progress.With only Slovenia and Bulgaria being EU member states, border crossings were expected to prove a problem, but aAgreements with the customs authorities helped to keep the delays at the border crossings down to a maximum of 30 min required for technical formalities and brake tests.Being a promotional train, the Bosphorous Europe Express was given maximum priority throughout the journey, unlike the average freight train. According to MRCE Managing Director Dirk Steffes, the trial demonstrated that ‘the train is twice as fast as the lorry’ which takes between 48 h and 57 h to cover the same route.last_img read more

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Fulham 2 – 1 Everton

first_imgFulham recovered from a poor first half display to claim an exciting victory over Everton at Craven Cottage.Tim Cahill’s header gave Everton a deserved half-time lead but Paul Konchesky’s deflected shot got Fulham back on terms after the restart.Everton were rattled when Phil Neville was carried off and Fulham capitalised on their confusion as Damien Duff fired home a second from outside the box.Everton went all out for an equaliser but Fulham held on for a welcome win.The early stages of the game were scrappy, with both teams’ poor league positions being borne out by a reluctance to try and take charge of the game.But with a resolute backline featuring Joseph Yobo and Sylvain Distin snuffing out any attacks Fulham may have been considering, Everton began to show more purpose going forward. Jack Rodwell had the first meaningful chance when his shot from outside the box took a deflection off Aaron Hughes, but Fulham’s debutant goalkeeper David Stockdale was up to the task.Just after the half-hour mark, Cahill gave his side a deserved lead.Danny Murphy was booked for a clumsy challenge on Steven Pienaar, and from the resultant free-kick wide on the left, Leighton Baines sent in a ball that Cahill – holding off the attentions of Etuhu – buried in the right-hand corner.Only a superbly timed intervention from Hughes prevented Leon Osman extending the lead, as the Northern Irishman took the ball off the midfielder’s toes when he was in a threatening position in front of goal.With Bobby Zamora and Andy Johnson getting no change out of Yobo and Distin, most of the few threats Fulham had came from Clint Demspey, but his United States team-mate Tim Howard in the Everton goal was rarely troubled in a first half controlled by the visitors. Fulham showed more enthusiasm and purpose in the first 10 minutes of the second half than they had in the whole of the first period, however, and it soon produced results.Neville bundled over John Pantsil just outside the box, and when Murphy’s freekick rebounded to Konchesky, the defender’s low shot took a wicked deflection off Distin, leaving Howard with no chance.Everton lost composure when Neville was stretchered off with a worrying looking injury to his knee which turned out to be nothing worse than a gashed leg, and Fulham took advantage to go in front.Johnson drew Yobo out of position on the edge of the box and laid the ball off to Duff, who cut in from the right wing to fire a shot low into the far corner.Substitute Marouane Fellaini and Yobo both had chances blocked in quick succession as Everton went in search of an instant equaliser, but Stockdale did well to keep them out. In a frantic finale, Everton keeper Howard was playing up near the half-way line and was almost caught out by a Dempsey lob, but Duff’s fine strike proved to be the match-winner.Source: BBClast_img read more

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